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Why You Overreact: How Trauma, Parts Work, and Somatic Therapy Can Help You Heal

  • Writer: Linda Di Filippo
    Linda Di Filippo
  • Apr 8
  • 3 min read

Updated: Apr 14


Parts Work Therapy for Trauma - abstract painting
Abstract on the outside, deeply human on the inside—our parts are not the problem; they are the path

Have you ever reacted to something in a way that felt overwhelming, disproportionate, or confusing?


Maybe a small disagreement with a loved one left you feeling abandoned and panicked, or a bit of criticism at work triggered deep shame or anxiety. These intense emotional reactions often aren’t about what’s happening in the moment—they’re echoes of unresolved trauma held by younger parts of ourselves.

If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. These experiences are common among people living with trauma, anxiety, or stress, and healing is absolutely possible.


Understanding Trauma Responses: Why We Overreact


When we’ve lived through childhood trauma, relational wounds, or overwhelming life experiences, parts of us can get emotionally “stuck” in the past. These younger parts—often burdened by fear, shame, or pain—can get triggered by present-day situations that unconsciously remind us of old wounds.


So, when your boss gives feedback or your partner pulls away during an argument, it might not just be you reacting—it could be a younger, hurt version of you stepping in, trying to protect you from danger that no longer exists.


What Is Parts Work Therapy for Trauma? A Compassionate Approach to Healing


Parts Work, also known as Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, helps us gently connect with and heal those younger parts of ourselves. Instead of judging or avoiding intense emotions, we learn to meet them with curiosity and compassion.

By building a relationship with the parts of us that are carrying pain, we can:


  • Identify emotional triggers and where they come from

  • Reprocess trauma with compassion and safety

  • Create inner harmony and integration

  • Heal long-standing emotional wounds at the root level


Why Talk Therapy Alone Isn’t Always Enough


Trauma isn’t just stored in the mind—it lives in the body. That’s why talk therapy, while helpful, often isn’t enough on its own to create lasting change.

Body-based trauma therapies like EMDR, Somatic Therapy, and Parts Work Therapy for Trauma engage the nervous system, mind, and emotions together—leading to deeper and more permanent healing.


How Trauma-Informed Therapies Work Together


EMDR Therapy (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing)Helps the brain reprocess traumatic memories so they no longer trigger intense emotional responses. Ideal for trauma, anxiety, and stress-related symptoms.

Parts Work (IFS Informed Therapy) Helps you identify and work with inner “parts” of yourself that may be carrying shame, fear, or pain. Allows you to reparent wounded parts and restore inner balance.

Somatic Therapy Teaches you how to tune into the body’s sensations and release stored trauma through breathwork, movement, and awareness. Vital for nervous system regulation and emotional resilience.


Real-Life Example: How Parts Work Can Help a Client Heal


Imagine a female client named Sarah, a successful professional in her 30s who constantly feels anxious and triggered by workplace feedback. No matter how rationally she tries to talk herself down, her body responds with panic.


Through EMDR, IFS, and Somatic Therapy, Sarah uncovers a 7-year-old part of herself that still fears rejection—formed in childhood while trying to earn her critical father’s approval.


By reparenting this part and processing her trauma somatically, Sarah gradually feels safer, more confident, and less reactive. She learns to set healthy boundaries and feel empowered at work.


Are You Stuck in Cycles of Emotional Reactivity? There’s a Path Forward


If you find yourself in patterns of emotional overwhelm, people-pleasing, self-doubt, or burnout, you don’t have to stay stuck. A combination of Parts Work, Somatic Therapy, and EMDR can help you reconnect with your empowered, whole self.


At Budd Therapy Group, we specialize in trauma-informed, holistic therapy for professionals, high achievers, and sensitive individuals who want to heal deeply and move forward with clarity and strength.


Start Your Trauma Healing Journey Today


We offer both in-person therapy in Basking Ridge, NJ, and virtual sessions across New Jersey. Whether you’re navigating trauma, stress, burnout, or performance anxiety, our integrative approach can help you heal from the inside out:


✅ Heal trauma at the root

✅ Reconnect with your body

✅ Build self-compassion

✅ Release anxiety and shame

✅ Step into your full potential







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